I normally don't go backwards...once we've ended it I'm done. Most likely I've hung in there as hard as I could and the end came from sheer exhaustion. YET...there is someone that I just can't get out of my system...and no matter the obstacles we've faced, the things that have made me doubt his love...I'm just not ready to give up. I DO fully understand though that any hurt or pain I experience can NOT be dumped onto his shoulders. If I just can't trust it and I continue to try...its on ME...just like you said.
You not wanting to revisit past issues isn't being a coward. Sometimes, it's best to move forward because the relationship would only suffer under the fears of issues past. Waiting for the other shoe to drop sometimes exhausts all the energy and therefore you've wasted valuable time you could've used strengthening your bond. I think you also have a point about how the feelings shouldn't have ever left. If in the back of your mind and deepest in your heart there has always been HIM...then, he might be onto something. Either way, try and pace yourself. I wish you the best with it.
Princess0889
· 2 months ago
I have and I am pretty sure I wouldn't do it again. In my situation I think I couldn't get it out of my head of how he had hurt me before and I pretty much created our second demise. I can also say that when I let go of him this time I knew I couldn't even be on friendship level with him because of how things went down. Unlike the our first time he still can't deal with us not having any communication but I can't deal with us having communication.
VegasSeven
· 2 months ago
If it was just a dating relationship both the first and second time around then absolutely yes I would go another dating round with her.
But if were a relationship the first time around and then wanting to get back together the second time around, then absolutely no. I will act maturely in the break-up, be friends and respect you and go out of my way to see how you and your family are doing every now and then after the break-up. But there is no way I can get back together with you. A special bond was broken, there is lack of respect for what I had to offer and I would think how much does she really like me if she said no the first time.
The contradiction to this is that if I were married and my wife cheated, I would be willing to sit down and be open to seeing what could be done to get back together and what really caused the cheating.
VegasSeven
· 2 months ago
If it were the case that the first relationship simply didn't work out from one of us not having our life together or not in the right stage and now we are in a position to get back together, I would refuse getting back together. If it didn't work out the first time, I don't want to take the chance to see if it would someone workout the second time. Even if I still love her both in the heart and passionately, I wouldn't do it. It just doesn't sound like it would be a healthy relationship. And I only get in healthy relationships at this point in my life.
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You not wanting to revisit past issues isn't being a coward. Sometimes, it's best to move forward because the relationship would only suffer under the fears of issues past. Waiting for the other shoe to drop sometimes exhausts all the energy and therefore you've wasted valuable time you could've used strengthening your bond. I think you also have a point about how the feelings shouldn't have ever left. If in the back of your mind and deepest in your heart there has always been HIM...then, he might be onto something. Either way, try and pace yourself. I wish you the best with it.
But if were a relationship the first time around and then wanting to get back together the second time around, then absolutely no. I will act maturely in the break-up, be friends and respect you and go out of my way to see how you and your family are doing every now and then after the break-up. But there is no way I can get back together with you. A special bond was broken, there is lack of respect for what I had to offer and I would think how much does she really like me if she said no the first time.
The contradiction to this is that if I were married and my wife cheated, I would be willing to sit down and be open to seeing what could be done to get back together and what really caused the cheating.